5 gentle cures for chronic talkers

Posted by on Feb 3, 2013

If you’re a nonstop talker who fills every conversation with your own ideas and observations, please hear this:


It doesn’t matter if you’re a full-throttle genius, a gifted orator, a high-titled leader, or a beloved figure who’s respected by all. Anyone who can’t turn it off at least some of the time will be turned off by most people all of the time.

Now, it can be difficult for any of us to tell whether we have over-talking tendencies.

So play it safe by putting these talk-less tips to work:

1. Resist the urge to speak first or last at meetings. Both slots are an invitation to discussion domination.

2. Make a point of asking questions to get input from your colleagues. If it doesn’t come naturally to you, prep for meetings by writing a few questions on the topic at hand.

3. For an entire week, make it your mission to speak less and listen more. Think of it as your own strenuous personal-development exercise. Don’t announce it, just do it. And when it gets impossibly difficult, keep doing it. Reserve 10 minutes at the end of each day to review your progress.

4. Pick out one person in your workplace who speaks less and accomplishes more. Watch their approach and uncover the three or so things they do that make a difference. Then do the same in your own interactions.

5. Whenever you get the sense that you’re talking too much, you probably are. End your comments promptly with four simple words: “What do you think?”


By Tom TerezContact